生存证据

 美国一位临终关怀护士曾经在网上发过一条已被全球网友用各种语言转了几十万次的帖,内容是1000名患者在临终前诉说的“人生最后悔的五件事”:

希望当初我有勇气过自己真正想要的生活;希望当初我没有花这么多精力在工作上而错过爱人的陪伴和孩子的成长;希望当初我能和朋友保持联系而不是因生活忙碌忽略了闪亮的友情;希望当初能有勇气表达我的感受而不是压抑愤怒和消极的情绪;希望当初我能让自己活得开心点而不是只在人前堆起笑脸。

在现代城市的高速高压运转中,每个人都像是在飞奔中的车轮上的一颗小铆钉,无论你想与不想,车轮在转,自己只能跟着转,这一转就是几十年。看了上面这个帖子在想,有什么方法可以让自己在跟这个世界告别的时候,尽量少说“希望当初⋯⋯?彼时“当初”就是此时“当下”,如果要避免临终的遗憾,那我们当下该做的是:

一、要有勇气过自己想要的生活。即使在如车轮飞奔般忙到没空喘息的时候,还是要经常问自己,我最想要的是什么?别人的标准是别人的,社会的标准是社会的,虽然我们生存在社会中和别人的目光下,但是,自己心中总要有杆秤,只有明白了自己的标准才知道取舍和轻重。

二、工作很重要,我们靠工作养家以及获得别人的尊重,但工作重要不过家庭、爱人和孩子。人生有些事错过还有改正的机会,比如没达到工作中的一个指标或者暂时没找到一份合适自己的工作;而有些事错过就将终生错过,比如孩子的童年,或一个爱你的男人。

三、朋友,尤其是一生中从没有过利益交往却始终心有灵犀的朋友。永远都别吝啬主动给朋友发个短信、打个电话、招呼一个饭局。有几个你可以永不设防说真话、久不联系依然亲的真朋友,是人生巨大的福气和财富。

四、没有人可以在一生中不哭泣不失败不挫折不委屈,有时哭出来比忍下去更重要。所有伤心的、难过的、愤怒的情绪,只有用恰当的方式发泄出来才不会积压在心底,别让自己变成一个只爱埋怨和骂娘的人。

五、活得开心点,是一句简单的话而并不是一件简单的事。这五个字更像是前面四点的小结: 知道自己想要什么并有能力掌控自己的命运+拥有幸福的家庭并珍惜+有好朋友并彼此常来往+拥有将一切爱恨伤悲一笑解千愁的洒脱和淡定——努力追求这些幸福的过程中,就能活得更开心。

无独有偶,在日本一位临终关怀护士写的书《人生最后悔的25件事》里也提到了上面几点,在这本书中,作者还强调了一个“遗憾”是“没有留下自己生存过的证据”。珠宝、房子和存款都不是一个人的“生存证据”,只有做过一点对别人和社会有益而能让他们记住自己的事,才算是“生存证据”。

人生有些事情不会让我们变得更富有,但千万别因此而放弃,那些事可以让我们内心更快乐,让人生更有意义,让我们此生有“生存证据”。在这个夏天,共勉。

                                                 晓雪

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